Comments on: When Stories Hurt

By: Cathy

Cathy — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 05:44:57 +0000

Thanks, Mahala, for making such a valid point. In my first novel, which I am workshopping into final draft this summer in Taos, I explored the idea of infidelity in a marriage. This was extremely difficult to write, but it allowed me to look at the idea in new ways, to experience the pain that my characters felt (which was different from how I personally had perceived it) and to move through the pain and to a newer, more “loving-kindness” focused understanding of all of the intricacies of a relationship instead of making broad assumptions. Writing this helped me heal, and also opened me up in ways that I never expected. Thanks for your insights – Cathy
Cathy´s last blog ..Poetry, love, and pain

By: Story Week: How to Be A Writer who Loves the Gap » Comfort Queen

Story Week: How to Be A Writer who Loves the Gap » Comfort Queen — Fri, 18 Jun 2010 18:02:29 +0000

[...] is part of a blog flurry about writing with my friends Susan Piver, Hiro Boga, and Mahala Mazerov. Partake of their posts today [...]

By: There is a way to write that solidifies story lines–and a way to write that liberates you from them. | Susan Piver

Fri, 18 Jun 2010 15:37:45 +0000

[...] For a kaleidoscopic view of this issue (storytelling vs truth telling), check them out. Hiro Boga: Tsunamis in the House of Wholeness Jennifer Louden: How to Be a Writer Who Loves the Gap Mahala Mazerov: When Stories Hurt [...]

By: Elana

Elana — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 22:26:38 +0000

Mahala, some of my most painful stories have been transformed through staying with them, giving them a place to expand and eventually metamorphose into something totally unexpected and even wonderful. Complete other worlds of empathy are created with the compassion that comes with the awareness that *we all have stories*

Thank you. : )

By: Mahala Mazerov

Mahala Mazerov — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 17:57:47 +0000

Sweet Stephanie. I think we all try to barricade ourselves against things we don’t want to realize. Then when we open our heart – if we still can – a flood comes rushing in. Please be very gentle with your tears. Know that you’re not alone.

By: Mahala Mazerov

Mahala Mazerov — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 17:57:07 +0000

LaShae, your words almost made me cry. Heart opening is so often such a raw experience. Staying open, too. I send my love.

By: Mahala Mazerov

Mahala Mazerov — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 17:56:40 +0000

Thank you for your beautiful words. I see your softly dancing spirit in your art. Simply beautiful.

By: Mahala Mazerov

Mahala Mazerov — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 17:53:14 +0000

No matter how much I wish otherwise, (for all of us!) we learn to find our freedom because we have to. Then we realize how beautiful the new way is. Mercy, hope, feeling like flowers. :-)

Thank you for being part of this writing experiment.

By: Mahala Mazerov

Mahala Mazerov — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 17:52:26 +0000

Hello dear,

In many ways our brains seem to be wired for resolution, making sense of patterns – recognizing the difference between a snake and a piece of rope, for example. I’m sure it’s a protective function, just as we try to protect ourselves from hurt.

But insisting on it does prevent a lot of “lived experience” and “shared reality” doesn’t it?

Lovely writing with You, Jennifer and Susan.

By: hazel colditz

hazel colditz — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 17:41:52 +0000

mahala…beautiful new site!

so good to hear from you…and this new post w/hero, jennifer and susan…powerful words of wisdom! you girls rock in force! i’ve read all three and can appreciate all views into pain/healing. transformation from your perspective feels clear as light! to let go of our attachments in mind/body no matter how painful or happy is a constant in our human world…i delight and rejoice in your guidance in benefiting sooo many who come upon your lovley site!!
will be in touch soon…hazel